I’m happy to say that I was able to meet up with another SMC (Single Mother by Choice) earlier this week. Turns out she lives right down the road from my new place and has two sons that she’s raised on her own and used donors for both. It was so much fun to meet with her – she’s a funny vibrant chick who seems to really have it together.

It was great to talk to someone so much further down the road (her kids are both in elementary school now) – especially someone who’s done this HERE and can report back on the life she’s chosen (especially other people’s reactions). We chatted easily over a delicious lunch that we both walked to from work.

We talked about how she chose a donor, what she felt strongly about when she was selecting and what I feel strongly about in selecting. She helped me feel even better about the choice I’ve made!!

Also, I was happy to hear her stories of struggles with other people and their weird opinions and attitudes. She says that she really hasn’t had to answer too many questions – which I guess makes sense. When NORMAL people see a single mother they don’t usually jump into a litany of questions about the father. I do know, however, that being pregnant somehow makes people feel like they can get ALL in your business, so I expect to have more questions then rather than when kiddo is here.

We talked for a while and I feel really lucky to have her in my crew. I’ve got other friends going through IUI, working through in vitro, offering support and suggestions and even a counselor to talk to. I feel so lucky to have a great system of close and supportive friends as well as all those that I haven’t been as close to that have recently come out of the woodwork to weigh in and offer support.

As usual, I’m a lucky girl with great people around and I can’t wait to get this show on the road!